GIVING THANKS

Thanksgiving is upon us. Time to reflect on what and who we should be grateful for in our lives. I am grateful to all our clients without whom any of this would be possible. I am also grateful to my team of various helpers who help make sure every detail gets executed well. And I am grateful to all the other wonderful vendors and venues who suggest us to clients, because they know we will do a great job too.

The focus of a wedding is, of course, on the two people getting married – although we all really know the focus is more on the Bride! But there are many other people who contribute oftentimes long, arduous hours to insure the outcome of a beautiful event. Any and all of these people should be acknowledged. Planning a wedding is oftentimes a whirlwind of activity. The Big Day is sometimes no less hectic. But don't let that sidetrack you from letting people know that you appreciate their efforts. Truly poised Brides never forget their manners.

A time to acknowledge some of the people involved is at your rehearsal dinner. This is when you present your Bridesmaids (and the Groom his Groomsmen) gifts to express your gratitude for their participation in your event. For the Bridesmaids this can be necklaces or earrings that coordinate with their wedding day outfits. Remember to consider if someone has pierced ears or not when purchasing earrings. Sometimes other gifts are given like gift certificates to favorite restaurants or spas. Or perhaps something more personal, maybe something you made yourself.

This could also be a time, as well as at the reception, for toasts expressing thanks to key people. Take a few moments beforehand to give this some thought. You want to have an idea of what you want to say that will hopefully come to mind through nervousness. Also, you don't want any hurt feelings because you forgot to mention someone. This doesn't mean that you have to give a lengthy (no one wants that!) obsequious speech for every single person. A few concise and heartfelt words is perfect. Done well and there won't be a dry eye in the room.

After all the enjoyment of the wedding, and perhaps a honeymoon, you are faced with the daunting task of writing dozens of thank you notes. I suggest writing notes – and only notes, e-mails just don't stand up - as your gifts arrive so you aren't overwhelmed later. Also, you'll be more fresh with your sentiments when done a few at a time. And in the end, be sure to thank your fiancé (spouse!) for enduring all the months of chaos, jitters and whatnot and for just being the person that you love.

Happy Thanksgiving!